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Comment by Reva Burke on July 9, 2009 at 5:53pm

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Comment by Reva Burke on July 7, 2009 at 4:26pm

I haven't quit yet! But when I tried cold turkey I thought I was going to kill her! we have been together for 3 1/2 yrs. But have our problems as well. When I tried quiting cold turkey I acted like a monster she says... I feel that when I tried to quit she pulls out all the stops and pushes every button I have! I feel like she doesn't care or understand! she doesn't smoke so how could she! She yells at me and says that I have no excuse for acting the way I do and says that Im acting like a drugy! On top of that she truley thinks Im faking or using my quit as an excuse to be a "B"! But Im not I literally can't control it! I feel so emotional and she gives me no support! have asked her just to be nicer just for the first 3 days because I really want to quit! I also asked her to walk away! But no such luck she gets just as heated even though Its not personal its my withdrawls! So I end up smoking again because she says she can't stand me! Also she has threatend to break up with me if I continue quiting and starting again! I need help and most of all support!

Whats going on right now! I have been feeling so alone latley... My spouse doesn't smoke and my Father smokes like a chain! We are all living together right now and its so hard to get support from either one of them because one doesn't understand and the other one is a lifetime smoker who doesn't want to quit! So I have no one... I talked to a coach from the Quitline twice now but have been having some problems with procrastination and excuses! I really want to quit though. I currently smoke a pack a day of Menthol cigs and tryed to change to non-methol but they made me very nauseated so I went back to Menthol and picked up back where I left off! Im not qualified for any nicotine medicine and cannot afford it right now being that I currently am laid off from work for a month! I have to much time on my hands being stuck at home and am not sure what to do with it. We are planning on moving soon my spouse and I and once we move I won't be around any smokers yay! But that won't be until the end of this month. Im going to start smoking only outside and see if that helps because I live on the fourth floor in an apartment building. Im also going to start tracking my cigs again and start a stress journal so wish me luck! Also, if you have any other ideas or advice that you have used to help yourself quit please let me know! I need all the help I can get right now! Thank You! Add me as a friend!

Comment by Jessica on May 16, 2009 at 10:50am

Hi I'm new here. I'm glad a group like this exists! My boyfriend and i haven't been getting on well lately anyway, and i know once i set my quit date and start having nicotine withdrawals, things will get worse. I already fear for the relationship. But y'know what? Quitting is something i need to do with him or without him. If the relationship is going to sink or swim, it's going to do so whether i've got a monkey on my back or not! So yeah, i'm glad this group is here... i'm sure i will need it!!

Comment by Jen on March 25, 2009 at 11:43am

Hi! My name is Jen. New to this group but am I glad I found it. I am on day 5 and doing great, without my husband aggravating me. He is a BIG trigger and I realize it (which is why I planned day 1 for a day I knew I wouldn't see him b/c of work). I was glad to see I am not the only one out there that felt this way. It doesn't help either that we are skating on very thin ice to begin with, and now more than ever I seeing things clearly. Probably because I am not hiding outside behind a cloud of smoke. I just hope I make it through without him destroying me first.

Comment by Nettrice on March 24, 2009 at 10:04am

I feel like i'm becoming really bitchy over this quit. nagging and being more jealous as usual and stuff.. Is it really the quit? I guess I am annoyed that he is not quitting. But I must say my love is very supportive to me and always undestands. But I dont like becoming a boring nagging beast... mh! is this going to go away?? Also I wake up crying sometimes, which I never ever do normally... the thing is, this whole behaviour is scary to me, and i hope it will go away and not stay, just because I am not smoking anymore....

Comment by Michele on March 19, 2009 at 7:27pm

No you are not....and I look at it as, he did something I don't know about, so we are even :P

Comment by sjkittee on March 19, 2009 at 4:44pm

I scream at him for no good reason at all? am I the only one??

Comment by Michele on January 30, 2009 at 4:57am

Take as many "ME" breaks as you need to...After I would lose it over and over with him on the first week, when I would start to get aggravated, I would tell him I needed some time to myself to unwind, and then if he bugged me I let him have it:)

Comment by windy maddox on January 29, 2009 at 11:02pm

I havent even set a quit date yet and im already ready to kill him over it! lol not really but i am worried about it . any advice?

Comment by nicole on January 22, 2009 at 1:02pm

i understand that! It was hard for me the first few days. I think day 4 hit me the hardest so far.

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