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Comment by EX Admin on November 7, 2009 at 5:22pm

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Comment by Ali on November 3, 2009 at 4:23am

Hey everyone,

I need some help. I had 50 days and messed up. Then I just had over 2 weks and walked up to my neighbors and asked for a smoke and I do not even know them!!!!! This insideous addiction has me b y the throat and I am so determined to quit and I cannot figure out why in that moment of insanity.....of thinking a smoke will make me feel better.......I keep reaching for it. I know it will not do one helpful thing at all! BUT when I am so stressed out, I do not realize that at all. So, can anyone relate? And how do I not pick up during these times? Any helpful tools?

Thank you!

Ali

Comment by usoundgirl on November 2, 2009 at 9:29pm

Im in it to win it! Night to all...about to have my last smoke. Tomorrow is the first day of new life without cigarettes.

Comment by jeremy on November 2, 2009 at 6:13pm

@ usoundgirl:

You can do it. The first day is rough, but day 2 is better (I'm on day two of my quit). The toughest part for me at work was getting through those times when you usually take smoke breaks (lunch, etc.). I'm 30 something and have smoked for 12 years. We need to quit now before we end up like some of those we know who are 40 or 50....

Comment by usoundgirl on November 2, 2009 at 11:54am

Hello, anyone there? I need some support- I quit smoking tomorrow the 3rd. I choose this day cause I will be very busy back at work hoping it will keep my mind off it. May day usually starts with two before work, and im able to go all day without till the damn drive home! Then its on, evenings are hard- I smoke frequently until i have to go to bed. Weekends and days off are the worst. Im about to be 35yrs old and have smoked for 15 yrs, this HAS to stop!! I want to have a child soon, and i need to be healthy. Any advice on how to make it through the first day?

Comment by Raelynn Fabrizio on October 21, 2009 at 1:36pm

Hello everyone, this is first day on become an EX and I am happy to be quitting smoking....again! I have tried about 10 times in the last 3 years, but I really need to quit this time. Not only can I not afford them anymore ($8.00 a pack here in CT) but I have been waking up lately in the middle of the night unable to breath, which scares the hell out of me!
My quit date is Friday, October 30th. I picked that date because I will be having surgery and where I am going to be recovering I will be unable to smoke. I will be at my mother's house and she has been on me to stop smoking for 25 years now, ever since I started, so I think I have a real chance this time seeing as I will be unable to drive and barely able to walk for about 2 weeks, I think that will get me over my hump. I am hoping and praying that I stick to it this time, it is not an easy thing to do. I hope this website provides the support I will be needing. Thank you all in advance and good luck to everyone!!

Comment by rich on October 20, 2009 at 10:15pm

BREATH HEALTHY N KNOW THAT YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO BE SMOKE FREE!!!!! BELIEVE,BELIEVE,BELIEVE!!!!!!!!!!!

Comment by Heather on October 19, 2009 at 6:41pm

Hi everyone! I have decided that I am going to quit smoking this week. It will be my third time quitting but I know that I can do it this time. I am 30 years old and have my whole life in front of me...a whole life without smoking.

Comment by Mark on October 17, 2009 at 2:32am

I have been smoke and chewing tobacco free for 18 months now after maintaining both habits heavily for 13 years. A pack a day and a can of Copenhagen every 2-3 days. Do I miss it? From time to time, but it is a faint memory of who I used to be. I would not go back to that way of life after all the hard work I have put in to excommunicate myself from the nicotine addiction that was largely in control of my life. Plus, after all that I have learned during the most difficult times of quitting, I am too educated now to make that decision to give in to nicotine when I feel like I need help. I can do it on my own without a crutch like a smoke or chew.

Here is some advice. If you start your quit date and you have all your best intentions in quitting despite the nervousness, you have begun quitting. It is common to give in during the first couple months. THIS DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE A SMOKER AGAIN OR CHEWER! It means you got knocked down. SO GET BACK UP ON YOUR OWN! I will not lie, you will be tested by every situation in your life that causes stress, even things that are not stressful will test you. One of the lies that your mind will tell you is that during your main quitting period, the first three months, is that when you do give in, that YOU HAVE TO START ALL OVER AGAIN. THIS IS A LIE! Do not believe it. keep moving forward toward your goal. Quitting at times will take everything out of you, rest may be needed or a break. One thing that helped at times was not chewing gum, but some soda or anything with some sugar in it. Remember though, the sugar thing will have to come to an end as well in order not to replace one habit to another. The sugar helps in giving a boost when needed to get through this difficult time.

Keep moving forward and do not dwell on guilt that you gave in. Guilt. It is the uppercut to the jaw when you least expect. But, once you realize that you are laying face down on the canvas because of the guilt (depressed), GET UP! You can and will stand up to it again, this time with the knowledge that guilt can sneak up on you at any time, which is preparation for your next bout that will soon take place. As long as you keep getting back up on your own, you will win the fight in the end. The beauty is, the fight ends when you no longer have the feeling to fight or the need to fight the habit. You will have gained control over your life the way it was meant to be, more aware and conscious of who you are at your deepest level.

I know this is a long post, but I wanted to pass what I have learned over the past 18 months because I know exactly what all of you are going through and know there are a lot of questions in the beginning. Some of you are probably seeking advice from non smokers, and feel that it does not help. Furthest from the truth, since those who are listening to you are supporting you, just the answers are not at the level you are hoping to hear. This is why you are in here trying to find others who hear you and can relate. I did the same thing on another website for a brief time just to read what others had to say about quitting. It helped.

I hope I did as well.

Mark

Comment by CAS746 - aka Cindy on October 13, 2009 at 8:00am

I had my last smoke Saturday morning at the Atlanta Airport smoking lounge. Somehow I didn't crave cigarettes the whole time I was in Pittsburgh and today was supposed to be my quit date...so I guess I have an early start! I'm craving one today because I'm alone at work and not outside being active like I was up in Pittsburgh, but I have already told my my old coworker downstairs to keep an eye on me so I can't cheat. Gotta get some chewy candy for my hour commute home...

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